Lately I'm having a strange desire to just write all the time.
No one can easily come up with good things about a break-up. Truth is they just suck. I don't usually say that word but how else can you accurately describe them? I have thought long and hard and decided maybe I have come up with some good things.
1. I get to spend quality time with my favorite friends. I am convinced there is nothing greater in life than the love of a true friend and I am lucky to have some of the best friends (including my family members) ever.
2. I can feel justified in eating a few more treats than I would usually allow myself. At the same time, my appetite is not at it's peak so I don't eat too much of anything. It's maybe the one time when I achieve a perfect balance-eat what I need but no more or less.
3. I feel prettier. Probably because I'm conscious that when I look good I feel good so I make sure to look good every day. But also because I look in the mirror and tell myself I'm beautiful, capable and desirable--because it's a time when maybe I don't feel those things as naturally. One man's loss is another man's treasure.
4. Independence. My sense of 'there is nothing stopping me from doing whatever I want' is at it's best. I have this much more time as a single individual to really do a lot of cool, fun, and good things.
5. I can do weird things. Yesterday I drove to Utah Lake. It was freezing and the wind was blowing. I opened my arms to the wind, threw my head back, made a wish and then through a lily into the water. It was relaxing and freeing. When I have a hard time letting go of things I like to do something that at least symbolizes the act of letting go and breaking free. My excuse for doing weird things like that? My BF just broke up with me :).
So there you have it. I at least found 5 good things about a break-up.
You can see my orange Lilly floating in the water.
Utah Lake is actually kind of pretty! Who knew?
I went to Red Robin with my roomates and our best friends down the hall.
6 comments:
It's also true that more bands are created after break-ups than at any other time . . . at least in my experience.
I am already in the process of creating our T-shirts.
I'm sorry Abs. But good news, I am coming to Utah in just 1 week, and I have some great/awful experience with breakups. I think I would like to tell you some of the great things... :) And I CANNOT WAIT to play with you!
I just read Joe's comment from a couple of post ago about finding your "good things". I think that was great advice! I liked hearing about the "good things" that are going on in Abby's life. I hear graduation is a "good thing" :)
I'm sorry you are going through that. I HATE break-ups. They really do suck. You almost have to use that word:) We would always love for you to come and hang out with us in Eagle Mountain if you need to get your mind off of things!
Abby, you are adorable. Also smart, beautiful, funny, and deliciously weird.
I love reading your blog because not only does it make me smile, but it makes me feel good knowing there are wonderful people out in the world like you.
Break-ups are miserable. But even though it isn't fun to hear while you are going through it....there is someone better out there.
In the meantime though you seem to be doing the best thing there is...enjoying life! I haven't been on a long car drive by myself in a long, long time. There is something really relaxing about driving and gathering one's thoughts. I love your idea of throwing the lily into the lake.
You won't always be single so take advantage of all of the fun things now. Later on you will look back on this time with fond memories.
Thanks for blogging. You have such a unique perspective on life, and I am glad you are willing to share it!
Sending lots of love your way,
Chandra :)
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